March 20, 2015

PCS Update: EFMP Nightmare

We finally got RFO last week. Last week. Why it took so long to get even that to us, we still don’t know, but as with everything else, we’re running a month behind schedule.

I still had to be cleared by EFMP to PCS OCONUS. Honestly I figured it would be a formality. I researched and there is plenty sufficient medical care for me at Tripler. I only even got on EFMP back in the day because I was pregnant, and my cardiologist insisted. Obviously I’m not pregnant anymore. This should be a simple sign-off.

Of course, it isn’t. Nothing can be. I’ve had two appointments this week and multiple phone calls all over the country and as of right now I can’t go. We’re working on that and hope it will be resolved within the next couple of weeks.

Of course, if it takes a couple of weeks, that puts us within 6 weeks of needing to leave the mainland, with no orders – so no transportation booked, no movers booked, nowhere to live when we get there, and even more scrambling and stress. Oh, the stress.

Right now I’m getting through it on daily Bible readings, yoga, and coffee. And baby snuggles. Baby G is toying with the idea of sleeping through the night again, a cruel tease, but it is nice to get another hour or two than I was getting.

And my mom. My mom has been my speed-dial therapist this week. I have missed being home more than ever with all this going on, but thank goodness for technology. She has talked me off the proverbial ledge many times the last few days.

Also good friends who let me vent without judging.

As much as I wish I had physical access to all these people, at least it’s nice knowing the support is there electronically.

Just last week we were fake-laughing again about how easy this PCS would be if it was just us, without the dogs. Well, it would be cheaper, but in fact this is way more complicated. And will probably involve a trip to Texas just to get this resolved.

My parents keep reminding me that this is all temporary, and eventually it will work out, and we will ALL get over there, one way or another. And that’s all true. And every PCS is stressful and annoying. That’s not unique to this situation.

But oh man, I’m ready for this to be over.

13 comments:

  1. I'm sorry this has become such a hassle! I wish getting orders especially was simple, we didn't get ours until a month before we pcs'd from CCC. There is never a sense of urgency for branch. :(

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  2. It's especially frustrating because most everyone else got their orders a while back. One of SoldierMan's friends, also going to Hawaii, got his orders a few weeks ago. Not RFO, actual orders. Granted, he hasn't had as much to deal with, but he at least got his RFO in February.

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  3. That is really weird! I honestly wonder why it has been such a fight for you guys to get orders.

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  4. I know the waiting is hard, but hopefully it will all work out. The EFMP overseas screening was one of the biggest headaches for us too, and for a month I thought I wouldn't get to come to Europe.
    I wasn't even enrolled in EFMP, but was seeking optional care for a condition that in no way is a health concern. I argued with the EFMP nurse that I had no intention to continue seeking care for the condition in Europe, but she still put it on my paperwork and told me to enroll in EFMP (even though I know for a fact it is not a condition covered by EFMP). I had to call and make multiple visits to EFMP just to get it all worked out. But in the end it all worked out okay. So hopefully it all works out for you as well. Good luck!

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  5. We'll probably never know, but I guess I should know better than to expect ease :) It'll be worth it in the end.

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  6. Oh man, I had no idea you were dealing with all of that! It's so frustrating because I feel like, if I have done my research and I feel satisfied that I will receive adequate care where we're going, that should be my choice, since it's my healthcare. I know people who use EFMP to stabilize their families for serious illness treatment (like a family member with cancer) but I don't like having so little control, when ultimately it's my risk, not the Army's.

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  7. Gosh, getting OUT of Hawaii was just as hard. We got orders the day before the movers came to pack up our stuff... three weeks before we moved.

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  8. EFMP can be such a pain, and it's ridiculous that they're giving you so many issues. We thought they were going to keep me from going to Hawaii, too, because of my asthma. Luckily all they wanted to do was an exam and I was on my way, but it was a hassle getting even that done because we got orders less than a month out from his report date. I hope they get this sorted out soon!

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  9. You were able to schedule movers without orders???? I thought you couldn't do that?

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  10. I'm sorry you had to deal with that, but it's nice to know we aren't the only ones (even though around here it feels like it). I keep forgetting we aren't walking on untrod ground.

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  11. We had an RFO, and we explained to them that "This is the date we NEED to leave (DEROS)" and they scheduled us!

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  12. Sorry that it's become such a pain! I was really nervous about having EFMP issues. I hope they can resolve everything for you!

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  13. Thanks! Today is already looking better. It'll all work out eventually.

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