December 8, 2014

The Hope of Christmas

10515115_643478522424571_8887739278652963254_oI received some devastating news over the weekend. A friend of mine from our last duty station, a beautiful lady with a kind spirit and a heart for God, lost her pre-born baby.

This is always heartbreaking news, but it stuck me particularly acutely because she was as far along as I was when I gave birth to Baby G. And, of course, we live two states apart now, and as much as I wish I could just drive down the road and do her laundry or make her dinner or just do something, I can’t.

She’s reported through friends that God has given her an extra measure of strength and faith right now, and for that I’m thankful, but oh….oh, the heaviness.

Lying in bed that night, as I was praying for her, I was thinking of Christmas. Initially, of course, of how very different this Christmas was going to be from what she and her husband expected. Of how the whole point of Christmas is celebrating the birth of a baby. Of a baby whose main purpose in life was, ultimately, to die.

I was reminded again, no one understands the pain of a child’s death better than our Father in Heaven. He sent His only Son away from Heaven to endure a life of hardship and pain, and ultimately a death by torture on a cross.

And then, resurrection!

And that’s the Hope. Because of the death and resurrection of Jesus, we have our Hope in Christmas.

Because of the Hope of Christmas, my friend will meet her baby girl one day, in Heaven. For more along this line of thought, I highly encourage you to read this by a friend of mine, herself having gone through 5 miscarriages. Instead of reproducing her work here, I want to give her credit for her research and ask you read it there.

Because of the Hope of Christmas, we don’t grieve as those without hope.

Because of the Hope of Christmas, we don’t only celebrate and remember the past, we anticipate the future.

Thank you, Yahweh, that Mariah and Caleb will see little Emersyn alive and well. Thank you that she is perfectly happy, perfectly healthy, and will spend every Christmas she’ll ever see in the presence of our Savior. Thank you for the Hope of Heaven. Thank you for the promise of Salvation.

Thank you for Christmas.


  1. Man that has to be so hard...I'll say a prary for your friend.

  2. Oh no, I'm so sorry about your friend.

  3. This is one of the hardest things in life I've ever had to go through. Please let her know that it seems like life can't go on right now, but God will provide strength to carry on.

  4. Sending so many thoughts and prayers. It is so hard to live without that new joy in your life, but there is comfort in knowing that our children are already spending time in the presence of Our Lord. And yes, we will see all our Angel Babies in Heaven.

  5. How terrible for your friend.

  6. That is so heartbreaking to hear. We had a solider and family who lost their child about a week before she was due to be born. It was so sad, and terrifying as well as I was pregnant at the time. Definitely will keep your friend in my thoughts and prayers.

  7. "we don’t grieve as those without hope." YES, that. Many, many times. I can't imagine losing a child like that. Even after having miscarried a baby, I can't imagine her situation. I never felt my baby, or planned for months and months. I didn't name her until after she was gone. But I KNOW that I will see her in heaven one day. Along with the baby my best friend miscarried just months before. I know that my precious little one is playing, and laughing, and is so, SO loved...and will never have to suffer the cruelties of this life here. There are days - still - when it's hard and I'm angry and having a longing that won't be fulfilled here on earth. But thank God that I have the hope that I WILL see her one day. And your friend has that, as well. I'm sure she has so many people surrounding her right now, but if you think she could use someone to talk to, please send her my email. Or even my phone number (if you still have it!). I'd be happy to lend an ear. <3


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