May 17, 2011

Phone Phobia

Have I mentioned I'm not a phone person?
Maybe it's because I didn't really have friends who called me found IM and chat as a kid before I had friends who sat and talked on the phone to each other, or because I've always felt more comfortable communicating in written form verses verbal.


And maybe it's because I always feel like you have to over-emote melodramatically over the phone since the person on the other end can't see your facial expressions, or hear you nodding interestedly when you're just listening and (mis)interpret your silence for disinterest.


Probably all of the above. Anyway, I don't like calling people. A big part of me feels that it's rude. Especially with everyone having cell phones as their primary line. I know that it's super-convenient when you're the one making the call, but when you're receiving, it's like saying, "I don't know what you're doing, but whatever it is, it's not as important as talking to me, so stop everything and answer my call!"


Maybe that's a little extreme. But that's how I feel calling people. Unfortunately, a big part of the world does not function through email and text message, so I am forced to communicate via phone.
Anyone else out there prefer to communicate through the written word?

16 comments:

  1. I love talking on the phone when it comes to my fiance who is across the country or short calls with my friends/family. Otherwise I do find that it's a lot more convenient to communicate via text, email, etc. unless it's something urgent. My fiance's mom calls me 5 times during a given workday and even though I respond to her voicemails by email, she still hasn't taken the hint! It's a lot easier to fit in time to communicate when like you said, you don't have to drop everything and devote a ton of time to the conversation and nothing else. Wow I feel like that makes me sound like a bad person but really I'm just busy!

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  2. I don't like talking on the phone either. I am with you on communication thru written word. I guess it depends on who the person is. lol when hubs was gone and called home every 3 weeks, it was amazing to talk on the phone. But other than that, I'm not a very big chit chat person, more like a "whaddaya want? make it quick" kinda phone person.

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  3. I know exactly how you feel! My sister and I were talking yesterday about how much we hate calling people. I always dread it when my phone rings haha

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  4. Hooray! I've found my soul-sister! =) I've always felt guilty about not wanting to talk on the phone but you hit the nail on the head for me. The phone rings and you never know what's on the other end (even in the days of caller ID -- "Unknown" and "Blocked" will never get an answer from me). The guilt comes from the fact that I DO like people and I like talking to them, but the phone is not my first choice. =)

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  5. I am this post COMPLETELY.I wish for my family's sake I was better at the phone....but Im not.

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  6. I am right there with you. I HATE talking on the phone! I would much rather text or email.

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  7. I am in total agreement! I hate talking on the phone, and I especially hate being the call-er. I have ONE friend I don't mind talking to on the phone and that's because she always has something to talk about, but she doesn't talk too much. I fyou know what I mean.
    My hubby and I can't even hold a phone conversation for longer than three minutes!! haha!

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  8. Oh yes. I much prefer the written word (or face-to-face) to the phone. The phone is the most intrusive piece of technology ever invented. It rings during dinner, when I walk through the door, when I'm in the bathroom, when I've got raw chicken on my hands, and at every other inappropriate or inconvenient moment in my life.

    With the written word, the receiver decides when to get the message. Much, much better.

    Of course, during deployment, hearing my husband's voice means the world to me. So I guess it's a necessary evil.

    But I still hate it. And, frankly, usually choose not to answer it. Sorry, anyone who's ever called me.

    Well, not really.

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  9. I first noticed this same quality about myself at a job where I had to make phone calls frequently...not telemarketing...I was coordinating youth summer programs on the east coast while I lived in Utah. Lots of phone calling. I would become a nervous wreck every time I picked up the line. I would literally practice the conversations in my head a million times before I dialed...becoming ever more nervous with each passing minute. Luckily I got over it by the end of the summer, or I may have had a heart attack. But I still go through this occasionally. Why?!

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  10. I hate talking on the phone too!

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  11. YESSSS!!!! Anything that has to do with a phone conversation gives me anxiety!!!!

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  12. I've always hated talking on the phone. I'd prefer to either email someone or talk to them face to face. I dont' know what it is about the phone. Thank goodness for caller id because I only answer the phone when I absolutely have to!

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  13. I love talking to friends, my hubby and my mom on the phone. But everyone else... not so much. I don't even like ordering pizza via telephone!!

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  14. i hate calling people too. i'll talk if people call me first. i much prefer texting or email. i have to call people though at work, because sometimes i have to make referrals for clients. i made my fiance call the vendors, except one or two because i didn't want to talk to them on the phone.

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  15. I cannot stand talking on the phone either. I love my friends and family to death but I have a few that like to talk all of the time and I just cannot do that!

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  16. My friends all think I'm very strange, but I know exactly how you feel. I've learned to be upfront about it with people. I get strangely worked up about calling people back if they've left me a voicemail. Anymore I just text to see if it's a good time to call lol.

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