June 13, 2010

Dear BBs

Recently we have had several wonderful opportunities to link up with a lot of new fabulous BBs. The blog hop at Riding the Roller Coaster and the new milblog community at Household 6 Diva are great. I have gotten the opportunity to "meet" so many new, incredible BBs.

Both my blog follower list and my "blogs I'm following list" have skyrocketed over the last few weeks, making it quite a challenge to keep up. Apparently there is some sort of unwritten rule of blog ettiquette that says that whenever someone follows you, you are, in turn, supposed to follow them. As many of you know, I am not good about following this rule.

I'm going to go ahead and make a confession: those numbers are going to shrink over the next few weeks.

It's not that I don't love you guys. I do. And it's not that you don't have interesting blogs. And it's not that something you said offended me in any way. Really.

The truth is, I'm just overwhelmed. I'm on here WAY too much. When SoldierMan is in the field, that's one thing. But when he's home and it's Thursday evening or Saturday afternoon and I feel guilty because I am spending time with him instead of posting something or commenting on your blogs....

I think you will agree with me that this isn't healthy. And I know you understand.

And I know, if you see a drop in your follower number and maybe I don't show up on your blog as often, that you won't take it personally, because this isn't personal. Not in any way.

In the same way, if as a result my follower list goes down - because either you only follow people who follow you (totally understandable) or because you, too, feel the need to do a blog purge after these two booms - I won't take it personally, or come to your blog and demand a reason why.

I get it. I'm there, too.

And for the record, this is a scheduled post. :)

17 comments:

  1. I totally understand. I may have to purge some of my following as well because I start feeling the same way on weekends out with the family. Then when I get back I am afraid to look at my google reader.

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  2. I guess I missed this rule somehow? I have been following blogs just for fun LOL. I love following your blog and totally understand if you don't get around to reading my bog. :)

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  3. i totally understand!! ive actually been thinking about doingthe same! :)

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  4. Totally feel you on this! I just recently posted about going back to "my old self" as far as blogging goes, and just reading the ones I want to read and blogging when I have something to write. No pressure, no stress, just a good outlet for me when I need it. No pressure to keep following me, but I do enjoy yours, so I'll keep up with it. :)

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  5. I completely understand. I have spent this weekend (while sick) purging myself of blogs I just don't read. I spend way too much time and energy and you're right, feeling guilty about it all is so unhealthy.

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  6. I too have had to recently adjust the blogs I am following. I couldn't keep up with all the constant flooding of new posts to read, I knew I was overdoing it, and I wanted to still have to time to write some of my own posts instead of spending all my free time reading everyone else's =) Totally understandable...nice post to acknowledge it too! It gives people your heart on it instead of just leaving them to draw their own conclusions =)

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  7. No need to feel guilty, it is totally understandable! :)

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  8. I am so glad you verbalized this because I've been feeling the same way, and I've noticed some comments on twitter too about google readers overflowing. It's kind of funny that when I thought of doing the blog hop, I expected maybe 40 people to join in. I was thrilled by the huge turnout, but now that the dust has settled, I feel so guilty b/c I just don't have the time to visit everyone on a regular basis. And ironically, even though I have more followers, I think my comments have decreased b/c everyone else is feeling overwhelmed as well. I try to visit people who regularly visit me, and I've been pretty good about sending email responses to comments, but it's tough when I'm trying to keep up with my own writing. I have to remind myself that I started my blog for the pure enjoyment of writing, and if no one reads it, then that's fine. It's still for me, I still enjoy it, and I'll always do it even if the only person who reads it is my dad! Good for you! (And BTW, I will ALWAYS read your blog! I may be a little late, and i may not visit every day, but I'll NEVER un-follow you! ;)

    Love ya,
    Me

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  9. It is completely understandable. And SM definitely takes first priority. Just remember those who followed you before the explosion of milspouses. ;) JK. But seriously, I love your blog and I appreciate you reading mine... but we all get bogged down. Goodness knows I am the biggest slacker.

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  10. I definitely have enjoyed my break from blogging. It's nice to sit down and write, and I enjoy catching up on people. But at the same time, I like not feeling obligated to post something every day.

    I should do a purge at some point, I suppose. There are some blogs in my reader that I just never go to.

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  11. Completely understandable. Spending time with SoldierMan is more important!

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  12. I use to follow that rule but I got so overwhelmed with posts to read! So I know exactly how you feel. Don't worry!

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  13. I've been doing the same thing. Just a few at a time, here and there as to not cause a commotion (not that a commotion would oocur).

    And I've never followed the rule. When someone new comments, I will go and check out their blog reading hte past few posts. If it tickles my fancy, I'll follow... if I am bored or offended, I don't follow.

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  14. This could have come out of my mouth directly! I've been so overwhelmed with blogger.. it's like I can't keep up. It seems like we are not the only ones. I've been trying to get organized on my cut list (ugh.. that sounds awful) and have a post coming about this tomorrow!

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  15. It's so funny because since reading your post and commenting, I've lost 3 followers! Guess people are following your lead and purging as well.

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  16. I'm happy to see that you didn't ditch me...yet =) I am in the same boat so it's good to see from your comments that everyone seems to be understanding and not taking it personally. My biggest problem is that it's summer and I hate to be inside...I'll probably re follow anyone I un follow come fall/winter =P

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  17. I feel like it can get a bit overwhelming and I have tons (well, some) extra time with Joshua gone right now...I can't imagine how to keep up with it after he's home

    that being said, I hope I make the cut ;)

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